A Nigerian lady has expressed shock over a unique cultural practice she discovered during a visit to China—specifically, the practice of men’s salaries being paid directly into their wives’ bank accounts. In her extended account, she details the moment of realization that made her re-evaluate her understanding of gender roles and financial dynamics abroad.
This revelation was initially shared on TikTok by user @babyqueenpoly2.0, who documented her eye-opening conversation with a Chinese man. In her video, she described how the man confidently showed her proof that his monthly salary is routinely credited to his wife’s account, a practice that differs vastly from what she is accustomed to in Nigeria.
According to her account, when she inquired about the reasoning behind this arrangement, the man explained that in their culture, a man’s role is to be the primary breadwinner while the wife’s responsibility is to “simply be beautiful.” He went on to elaborate that this financial structure reinforces traditional roles and promotes a specific family dynamic that is highly valued in their society. This explanation left her both fascinated and bewildered by the contrast with her own cultural norms.
Intrigued by this practice, she pressed further by asking what would happen if the wife were to use the money for any purpose other than what was traditionally expected. In response, she was further surprised to learn that many Chinese men, despite their primary financial role, also actively participate in household chores, including cooking and cleaning—an intriguing blend of traditional and modern practices that challenges simple stereotypes.
She added in the video, emphasizing her astonishment: “And mind you, they also cook and clean 😭😭😭 like they literally do most of the chores in the house 😭😭😭.” Her exclamation captured the attention of a wide online audience, resonating with viewers who are equally curious about cultural differences in domestic roles and financial matters.
As the video circulated widely, it drew extensive attention and ignited a spirited debate in the comment sections of various social platforms. Viewers from different cultural backgrounds weighed in on the practice, discussing how such financial arrangements might influence marital dynamics and societal expectations both in China and in Nigeria. The discussion quickly became a platform for comparing traditional values with evolving societal roles in different parts of the world.
See some reactions below:
Amaboatemaa: “That is why divorce is very low there.”
It’s Uri: “no body is talking of how fluent she is 🥰.”
Damilola: “From Nigeria to china by road, abeg na how many months? 😂😂.”
NginguKholiwe😊: “No wonder I enjoyed Jackie Chan’s movies. It was a sign all along 😭😭.”
Tino: “my older sister got married to a Chinese man and she is getting spoiled 💔.”
joy: “am moving to China to remarry and support my husband in Ghana.”
Du: “I’m a Chinese man don’t believe that, it’s a big lie. 😅😅😅.”
KP: “My husband’s salary get credited to my bank account. I give him pocket money and yes I sometimes tells him I don’t have money 🤣🤣.”
Goddess Hajir: “from today Chinese men are very handsome ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️, I didn’t know this earlier.”
Ssstefiee: “We are in Philippines and my husband is from northern China and it’s really normal to them especially if your husband is serious and faithful to you. From the beginning until we got married and until today, all his salary is given to me and he does house chores too, helping in everything. I’m Filipina 🇵🇭 and he is Chinese 🇨🇳.”
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In an extended discussion that followed, experts in cultural studies and gender roles weighed in on the potential impacts of such financial practices on family life and marital satisfaction. They noted that while the practice may seem unusual to outsiders, it reflects deeply rooted cultural values that prioritize family unity, trust, and clearly defined roles within the household.
Moreover, the Nigerian lady’s account has sparked further dialogue about the globalization of cultural practices, urging viewers to re-examine preconceived notions about financial independence, gender roles, and marital dynamics. The conversation continues to evolve as more social media users share similar experiences from their own cross-cultural encounters.